9/04/2008

In Your Atmosphere...

Breakups are never fun...

Some time ago, I was on the phone with a friend one evening. I remarked to her that I wanted to go to a store, but couldn't. Of course, she asked why. That's when I tried to explain to her something that I call "Relationship Territories". I don't think she understood what I was talking about. Editor's Note: I'm not totally sure I did either.

The law of Relationship Territories consists of this: Every relationship has a geographic area that it typically exists within. This area is usually somewhere around or between the couples' homes and or places of work. If the relationship is significant enough, post-breakup, there will be a period of time wherein it will be extremely difficult for one (or both) member(s) of the couple to travel into the Relationship Territory.

In my mind at the time, since I was going through a breakup, this totally made sense. I didn't want to go into this certain part of town on the off chance that I would see my ex. But I wasn't sure what would hurt more, seeing her or not seeing her.

Needless to say, I gave up on trying to explain this. If I didn't fully understand it, how could I get her to?

Today, as I drove to the office, a song came up on shuffle on my iPod. After listening to In Your Atmosphere by John Mayer, I understood my theory a little more.

Check out the lyrics:
I don't think I'm gonna go to LA anymore
I don't think I'm gonna go to LA anymore
I don't know how to land and not race to your door
I don't think I'm gonna go to LA anymore

I don't think I'm gonna go to LA anymore
I'm not sure that I really ever could
Hold on to your hotel key in your Bedroom neighborhood
be sleep-walking in Hollywood

I'm gonna steer clear
Burn up in your atmosphere
I'm gonna steer clear
Cause I'd die if I saw you
I'd die if I didn't see you there
So I don't think I'm gonna go to LA anymore

I dont think I'm gonna go to LA anymore
I get lost on the boulevard at night
Without your voice to tell me I love you, take a right
the ten and the two is the loneliest sight

I'm gonna steer clear
Burn up in your atmosphere
I'm gonna steer clear
Cause I'd die if I saw you
I'd die if I didn't see you

I'm gonna steer clear, oh yeah
Burn up in your atmosphere here
I'm gonna steer clear
Cause I'd die if I saw you
I'd die if I didn't see you there
see you there

I think I'm gonna stay gonna stay in the gray think I'm gonna stay
And all the street lights say nevermind nevermind
All the canyon lines say nevermind
Sunset says we see this all the time, nevermind, never you mind.

Wherever I go
Whatever I do
I wonder where I am I wonder where I am
In relation to you
Wherever you go
Wherever you are
I watch your life play out in pictures from afar
Wherever I go
Whatever I do I wonder where I am
In my relationship to you
Wherever you go
Wherever you are
I watch that pretty life play out in pictures from afar


What's especially strange, is that even when an individual is completely over their ex, the law of Relational Territories can still apply. Sometimes, it's just difficult to disassociate things.

So there you go: The Law of Relationship Territories. It's going to be a thing. Watch for it...

3 comments:

Julie Hibbard said...

Yep. I know it well. Too well.
Some stores will never be shopped in. Scents that hurt to smell...
Songs that can't be played.
Some never go away.
Trust me.
Never

joshp said...

So whenever we break up you'll never be able to go to simplyyouthministry.com right?

The Blonde Assassin said...

I can't eat at BJ's anymore :(